How to RSVP to a Wedding
I appreciate your generosity in sending me an invitation to your May wedding. Tim and I would both adore attending and commemorating such a momentous day. – I’m looking forward to seeing you soon, and best of luck with the last few months of planning. – Kindest regards, – Victoria Lee.
RSVP cards ask you to indicate whether you can attend and indicate how many guests you have. It’s important that the RSVP card includes the guest’s full name, including the name of a plus one. If the RSVP card does not ask for a plus one, you should not reply to the invitation. Of course, you can always rely on if you have made other plans.
Respond by the response date
If you have recently sent out wedding invitations, you know how difficult it is to follow up with guests who have not responded to the response by date. You will see a massive flurry of RSVPs right after the wedding date is announced, followed by the arrival of the stragglers a couple of weeks later. Not only will your wedding go down in flames because you’ll have to chase them down, but you’ll have a list of people to follow up with.
The RSVP response date is usually three to four weeks before the wedding date. While some guests may choose to mail the response cards, others will not. Therefore, selecting the RSVP by date well before the wedding is essential, especially if the venue or caterer wants an accurate headcount two or three weeks before the wedding. A good rule of thumb is to ask the venue for a firm RSVP date and back it up by two weeks.
Knowing your RSVP date will save you time and money when planning your wedding. Notifying your wedding vendors of the final number of attendees makes planning more manageable. In addition, it will save the bride and groom money by not having to rebook the venue or cater the reception twice. A wedding RSVP date calculator is an invaluable tool to have at hand for finalizing your wedding plans. A wedding RSVP calculator can also be helpful for the caterer.
Regarding response wording, you’ll want to follow the same relationship tone as when writing a traditional RSVP card. Also, if you received a digital invitation, you won’t need a response card. Instead, digital invitations will have instructions on how to RSVP online. For example, you can RSVP by visiting the wedding website or sending an email to a specified email address.
Indicate whether you can bring a guest
If you have received a wedding invitation with a guest space, indicate whether you can bring a date. If the invitation is addressed to both the bride and the groom, you can bring a date if the invitation states “plus one.” If the invitation is addressed to a single person, the couple may be unable to accommodate this request, so make sure you indicate if you can bring a guest.
Make sure you mention this on the RSVP card. When people send you an RSVP, it is essential to say that the invitation-only allows guests to bring one guest. They may assume they can bring a guest if you don’t include this information. In these situations, it’s best to say, “and guest,” or you might end up with someone who throws a fit.
The wedding invitation envelope should state whether you are welcome to bring a guest. Whether you can bring a guest is a very personal decision. Some couples are not able to invite a plus-one because of the cost. If the couple is newly engaged or moved into their new home, it may be wise to ask. The best way to get an accurate answer is to ask if they are married and have children.
RSVP cards should include a space for guests to indicate their names. Most couples leave this line blank on the RSVP card. However, some couples include a line that says, “We have reserved ___ seat(s) for you. Guests should write their names on the reply card as well. They can also include their plus one if they want to. Otherwise, they should fill in the number of guests.
Don’t RSVP unless you’re 100% sure you can’t attend
If you are recently single and don’t want to attend a wedding, consider not RSVPing. It is ok to decline the invitation if you are unsure of your ability to attend, but don’t lie to the couple. This can backfire if you’re caught in a lie. Instead, be upfront about your inability to attend. For example, you may be unable to reschedule your trip and pay for the flight back home.
Weddings are serious affairs, and you don’t want to disappoint your host. However, if you RSVP and then cancel at the last minute, you will likely cause yourself and the host more trouble than you can imagine. Incomplete RSVP lists can pose numerous problems, including difficulty in planning seating and estimating food portions. Even worse, it can create many other worries, like confusion over party favors.
The first reason to RSVP is to give the couple time to make arrangements for other guests. Many people find it easy to ignore RSVP emails or text messages. However, if you don’t want to make arrangements, it’s best to call the person and tell them that you aren’t sure you can’t attend. That way, the wedding planner can make the necessary arrangements.
You may not know it, but a recent survey showed that 83 percent of guests attended their wedding. Seventeen percent declined. This means that out of 100 wedding guests, only 83 show up. That number is pretty low, but the most significant factor is location. The decline rate may be higher if the wedding is in another state. The worst-case scenario, however, is a bride and groom who don’t RSVP to a wedding because she isn’t sure she can attend.
Don’t RSVP if you’re not sure.
A simple no-show at a wedding is not suitable for the event’s host. However, sending an RSVP does more than disappoint the host. An incomplete guest list can cause many problems, from uncertainty over food portions to difficulties with catering halls. In addition, without a guest list, it’s challenging to plan to sit and determine the kind of party favors to hand out.
Not only is this tactic rude, but it also leaves the wedding host feeling embarrassed. After all, you didn’t RSVP because you’re unsure if you can attend. But this isn’t the only reason not to RSVP. You might feel too embarrassed to attend the wedding or may not have the transportation to get to it. Leaving a voicemail message is polite and respectful.
Often people forget to RSVP for events, but you can prevent this problem by sending polite reminders a few days before the event. Send reminders by email or text, and be sure to do so at least a few days before the RSVP deadline. Also, don’t forget to give your friends and co-workers a heads-up so they can make plans based on your availability.
Another issue newlyweds face is the lack of RSVP. Sometimes, guests refuse to RSVP to wedding invitations, and the reasons are unclear. Therefore, it’s essential to find out the status of each guest so you can plan your table accordingly. This is particularly important if you’ve invited an unexpected guest. If you know in advance, you’ll have a better idea of how many people to invite to the wedding and table arrangements.
Don’t RSVP if you’re not sure you can bring a guest.
If you’ve received a wedding invitation but are unsure if you can attend, do not RSVP. Not only is this rude and unprofessional, but it also leaves the wedding host wondering whether you’ll be able to attend. Sometimes, people forget or lose RSVPs and don’t respond to them. Besides, it might not even be the wedding.
If you’ve received a wedding invitation but are unsure you can bring a guest, you shouldn’t RSVP to that wedding. The couple that you’re attending has likely paid for each guest. If you can’t bring a guest, you’re not doing them any favors. Instead, RSVP for yourself and purchase a gift for the couple if you’re able.
If you’ve sent out wedding invitations but didn’t receive a response, your next step is to get in touch with the closest parent to the couple. Sometimes, a mom’s cousin will drag her feet. She may be easier to reach if Mom calls her. Then, you can gently ask her to RSVP if she can attend the wedding.
A common mistake people make is to ignore RSVP messages. This is not an ideal way to show your interest. When you aren’t sure whether you can make the event, it’s better to decline the invitation than to send an apology message. A late reply is not only rude but also unprofessional. It’s a definite turnoff.
When RSVPing to a wedding, write the name of the only guest you’re inviting. Use the words “and guest” instead of “and guest” as some people might assume they’re allowed to bring a guest. For example, “1 Seat Reserved In Your Honor” sounds a bit stuffy, but you’re not obligated to bring anyone. Inviting a guest is perfectly fine if you know the bride or groom personally.